As children, we often heard the saying, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never harm you,” especially during difficult times, perhaps when facing a bully at school. This advice, though well-intentioned, isn’t entirely accurate. Words can indeed cause significant harm.

Take a moment to think about the harsh words exchanged during a recent argument at home, or consider the negative feedback received during a performance review at work. Reflect on the feelings of rejection when a romantic interest didn’t reciprocate. Words can lead to deep emotional pain.

However, the words that often hurt us the most are the ones we say to ourselves. Our thoughts are framed in language, and our minds can generate a relentless flow of negative self-talk. Phrases like “I can’t,” “Something is wrong with me,” “No one likes me,” “I’ll never manage it,” “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m unattractive,” “I’ll never find a good job,” or “I’m sure I’ll be fired first” are common examples.

Recognizing that these negative thoughts are not truths but merely opinions is crucial in combating anxiety. They may not disappear entirely, but with understanding and practice, you can learn to accept them as they are. By adopting a program of positive action steps, you can begin to regain control over your life and emotions. Explore our resources and let me help you turn a new page in your personal development journey.